Thursday, October 18, 2018

Certain Songs #1362: Nirvana – “All Apologies” | Medialoper

Album: In Utero
Year: 1993

“All Apologies” is my favorite Nirvana song.

“All Apologies” is the song that I most associate with Kurt Cobain blowing his brains out with a shotgun.

I’m not sure what it says about me that the Nirvana song that makes me the happiest is also the Nirvana song that makes me the saddest, but somewhere in the Leonard Cohen afterworld, I’m guessing that Kurt Cobain is nodding his head in recognition.

We’re nearly a quarter-century past that event, of course, and I still think constantly about the alternate universe where whatever pain and despair that he was going through passed before he could pull the trigger, and what the trajectory of his career might have been if early April, 1994 was just another bad patch that he’d eventually overcame.

But it’s just a series of unanswerable questions, isn’t it? From the shape of his music to his relationship with his wife and his child all the way down to the status or even existence of the Foo Fighters, it’s all impossible to know. Though I think that his music would have widened, his marriage would have flamed out and Foo Fighters would exist but not be nearly as huge — Dave Grohl’s side project would have been nice but probably not seemed as necessary or at least as interesting as it did in the mid-1990s.

What I do know is how I felt about Kurt’s suicide when it happened. And I know that because of social media.

In this specific case, that social media was the Replacements and Bob Dylan message boards on Prodigy, one of the walled gardens online in the early 1990s. I think that Prodigy came with my first PC, which I bought in 1993, and I got online and immediately went to look for other Replacements and Dylan fans, just like real life. And I met people back then who might even be reading these words, my first online communities. The first place I was ever “barefoot jim,” which I still use 25 years later.

And so, it was to those communities that I wrote these words (edited only for spelling):

Board: MUSIC

Date: 04/08
Time: 8:41 PM

"What else can I be/all apologies"
-- Kurt Cobain

Kurt Cobain never got a chance to make his Imagine.

You're gonna read and hear a lot of Lennon/Cobain comparisons in the next few days -- which is appropriate, but a little disingenuous. The worlds which spawned the Beatles and
Nirvana, while separated by only a generation, might as
well have been different dimensions. But since Nevermind
is the X (my) generations Sgt. Pepper -- the album that
changed the pop world forever (and we aren't just talking
about grunge here -- no more than you can reduce the impact
of Sgt. Pepper to psychedelia), that completely turned pop
music upside down, and crystallized us, if only for a few
moments. But I ain't gonna convince any Boomers about
Nirvana, any more than they could convince their parents
about the Beatles.

But Lennon's death always fascinated me, though it ever
affected me emotionally -- maybe his best work was still in
front of him, maybe not. But he was my Dad's age, and he
was writing about his life, not mine. Kurt Cobain was my
age, and in his elliptical style, his concerns echoed my
concerns. "Here we are now/Entertain us/I feel stupid and
contagious." I've never had an artist my age whose art
affected me as much as his did die on me. All of those
albums and songs and concerts wrenched away forever. I
never even got to see them: I was finally going to go to a
Lollpalooza this year cos they were playing.

Now I know how a lot of people felt about John Lennon.
This bites.

I called my friend Tim in London, and he -- like so many of
us -- was saddened and shocked, but not particularly

In some respects Nirvana were victims of not so much
their success, but the anti-success tenets of the
underground from which they were spawned. For them to get
this big -- stadiums of people singing "Rape Me," a highly
personal song about his stardom -- was almost a betrayal of
principles. Everybody wants as many people to hear as much
of their music as possible, they just don't want to put up
with all of the stuff that surrounds it, and if a band gets
as big as Nirvana, they're automatically assumed to have
"sold out," whatever that means. A stupid and pointless
backlash from former supporters. Ack.

Didn't he realize that by offing himself he's forever
enshrined himself with the dread "spokesman for his
generation" tag he's always derided?

--barefoot jim

Everything was changing in the spring of 1994. I was unemployed, having left Video Zone; I wasn’t playing in any bands, though I had hooked up with a local publication called Kade and doing writing for them; I was in denial about my feelings for Rox; the Wild Blue closed, changing the scene forever, and I just felt like I needed to start my life over. And, for whatever reason, Kurt’s suicide was at least partially a catalyst for that.

And so, before that spring was even over, I’d moved to the Bay Area.




The central riff of “All Apologies” twists and turns around itself, nearly as elliptical as some of Kurt’s lyrics, seemingly without a fixed starting or ending point, and yet providing a perfect setting for an amazing set of lyrics where Kurt questions the meaning of his own existence.

What else should I be?
All apologies
What else could I say?
Everyone is gay
What else could I write?
I don’t have the right
What else should I be?
All apologies

Kris Novoselic is swirling around the riff while Dave Grohl is playing almost a stutter-step with his kick drum, snare and one of his toms, totally staying out of the way, in order to allow cellist Kera Schaley to swirl around the verses.

No cello on the choruses, though, which ramp up the electric guitar — as was the fashion at the time — for a chorus that starts off cheery and ends up, not so much.

In the sun
In the sun I feel as one
In the sun
In the sun


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